Seven Important Steps You Can Take To Revive The Spark In Marriage
Remember when you two were so deeply in love that nothing could separate you? A lot of us have come to expect that the passion wears off after a few years, but it doesn’t have to. You can revive the spark in marriage. Here are a few things you can do to reignite and rekindle the flame in your relationship:
1) Date Like You Used To Date In The Beginning
Many couples settle into routines; they come home from work, eat dinner, watch some television and then sleep. It can get very boring sometimes. It’s time to re-ignite that spark in marriage. So to spice things up, spend one night a week having a night out, and spend it just like you used to when you both were dating. You need to remind each other why you both got together in the first place. If you have children, leave them with a grandparent or a babysitter for just that one night. You will definitely enjoy the peacefulness and focus on each other.
A lack of communication can be the main cause of a monotonous loss of the spark in marriage. Light the flame again with solid communication time. Make the time to be alone to talk every day, even if it’s only for a few minutes. Effect communication is vital to keep the spark alive. If you feel your partner is not spending enough time with you, speak your mind. Sit down and discuss about it. It may bring back the charm of your relationship.
3) Be Romantic
The spark in marriage is normally fired up to start with by a little romance. In the beginning, almost all couples flirt with each other. You already know how to turn each other on mentally, emotionally and physically. So why not send your significant other a flirtatious text or email in the middle of the day for no reason. Tease them a little bit. Tell them how much you miss them. Tell them how good it feels to be in a relationship with them. Random compliments in the middle of the day for no reason at all will reignite a romantic spark.
4) Explore Something New Together
Get away for the weekend. Take a road trip together. Explore a new activity together. It doesn't matter if it's dancing, cooking class, learning a sport or something else. It only matters that you learn something together. Doing that will make you ignore the current issues between you, plus it creates something new about which the two of you can talk. Newness with the love of your life can do a lot to revive the spark in marriage.
5) Bedtime sharing
Go to bed at the same time, together, every night. This is huge. That means turning off the TV, the night-light and the phone. This is your time together. Cuddle and talk, light a physical fire between you if the urge strikes, but that is not the point. The point is to talk about your day, your worries, and your hopes. Discover that in spite of all the time you have spent together, you still don’t know each other. If are not together for whatever reason, talk on the phone after you climb into bed. The spark in marriage often turns into a pretty hot flame if you can get this down.
6) Touch well, touch often: Touch your partner as often as possible, and get them to touch you as often as possible. Skin to skin contact increases a hormone called oxytocin, which some call the hormone of love. Oxytocin increases trust and a sense of safety; it reduces stress and increases sexual arousal. For the spark in marriage to grow, tender touches go a long way.
7) Play together. Be playful in your interactions. Have a sense of humour in times of stress. Find something playful to do that you both enjoy and make it a priority to keep it in your schedule. Play is critical to our sense of connection to others, and to our joy in life. It also expands our ability to think, develops creativity, and gives us a sense of joy in addition to develops trust and engenders caring. Play time often with your spouse will add tp that spark in marriage.
A good marriage takes work. You have to think about the other person, your husband, your wife. If you want to, between the two of you, keep the spark in marriage, simple things like this may carry your marriage beyond the sparks and into the flames.